A Practical Guide to SSSF and GOMI

Believe us, on GOMI, if we don’t like your skirt, we won’t lie about it

It’s great to see that our new blog has already inspired some constructive criticism and commentary in the SBC. We are huge fans of sewing and sewing blogs, and this is often misunderstood. We all sew, most of us compulsively; we love patterns, fabrics, machines, notions, gizmos, and writing and reading about them. Trust us, we don’t hate you. Sometimes, we hate what you make, what you say, or what you do. But we don’t hate you.

We particularly loved Communing with Fabric’s recent thoughtful post. We also feel that GOMI Craft contributes to the SBC by being the balance—the gadfly. But there are some misunderstandings we would like to clear up about how things are done here on SSSF, over on GOMI Crafting, and on GOMI in general.

SSSF, the Blog

The editors of SSSF (Sew Sorry, Sew Fat) all met on GOMI and found we shared a similar (but not identical) approach to sewing, blogging, and snark. These were all hashed out through long, rambling, sometimes confrontational and even painful, conversations on GOMI before we ever decided to start a blog. Our rules can be found here.

These rules only apply to and are only enforced on the contents of this blog, both posts and comments. The SSSF editors do believe in these rules, and as a result, the snark you find from us on the GOMI Crafting Forums tends to follow these rules.

Basically, Shams, we agree with you: “sagging boobs” comments and the like are not GOMI’s finest moments, and it’s not something you’ll find here on the blog. We’ve all got something about our bodies that could be snarked on. We hope if we do cross the body-snark line here on the blog, you’ll call us out.


GOMI (Get Off My Internets) is a set of message boards and a front page newsfeed that discusses all kinds of blogs. The boards are organized by blog interest into separate forums, such as the Fashion/Style Forums, the Healthy Living Forums, and the Crafting Forums, among others. These forums are where all members of GOMI weigh in on what they really think about the various blogs out there.

The editors of the SSSF blog do not own GOMI and are not involved in the site’s moderation, administration, or policy-making. The only official rules for GOMI in general are found in the site-wide comment policy, which can be found here. Additionally, GOMI and its owner, Partypants, are not involved in the running, administration, or founding of this blog.

Notice that there is nothing in the policy about keeping comments constructive and away from topics like body image, age, orientation, or race. The policy aims to keep GOMI snark contained inside of GOMI and not to spill over and disturb the lives of bloggers outside their blogs. As a result, there is some vicious commentary on some of the more popular GOMI threads—commentary that, we like to flatter ourselves, would be taken apart in short order on the Crafting forum.

We like to think that our commentary on the Crafting forum is largely constructive and insightful (your opinion may differ). These are mostly things that some bloggers, particularly of the “I quit my day job” variety, don’t want to hear…but we think they should. However, when these types of comments are brought up on some blogs, interesting things happen:

  • The comment never even makes it out of moderation.
  • If comment moderation is off, the comment is immediately deleted.
  • The comment lives, but the commenter is piled on by fangirls for hurting someone’s feelings, being mean, insensitive, being a “jealous hater” (a personal favorite), or an internet troll. See #5 on StitchWench’s “How to Write a GOMI-Worthy Sewing Blog”.

Not every comment on GOMI is constructive. Some people suck. Sometimes people have a bad day. Sometimes things written on the internet are misconstrued, and something is unfairly attacked on GOMI. But whatever is said on GOMI is sure to incite a vigorous debate, and we do love those conversations.

This is GOMI: it is not here to be nice.


3 thoughts on “A Practical Guide to SSSF and GOMI

  1. On GOMI, I do not follow the Thumper Rule, which is “If you don’t have anything nice, to say, don’t say anything”. Instead, I offer up my opinions. In order to even have an opinion, I need to think about why I feel that way. That way I can back up my statements with my reasons. I imagine this must be what is taught in a debate class, which regretfully I have never taken. It is high time to learn how to speak up and let the conversations go where they may. And you know, what? Practicing on GOMI is helping me be more assertive, honest and less passive aggressive in real life. I am ready to own my opinions. I have valid reasons for being anonymous on GOMI and it isn’t to give me a shield so I can be an asshole.

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  2. Is there something dirty about the desire to make money? If some bloggers see the potential to turn their hobby into a money making venture, what is wrong with that? No one is required to provide endless, free content. If affiliate links and, OMG, patterns offered up by those without a patternmaking degree offend you, then just move on and don’t buy them.


    • HI Greta. Thanks for commenting.

      I’m not sure what you’re referring to, though. There’s nothing in the post about bloggers who make money. It’s a description of the differences between SSSF and GOMI.

      If you’re responding to a GOMI thread, I’m afraid you’ll have to make the point on GOMI directly.


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